Most of us want to be loved unconditionally but are not always willing to give love unconditionally. Loving unconditionally means that no matter what they do, no matter how difficult things get you will love this person. You may not always like what they do, but you will always love them. No strings. No conditions. No yeah buts. Loving unconditionally does not mean that you have to swallow whole whatever they’re doing. You can love them unconditionally from afar. Like the addicted person, you may have to leave until they are in a better place. That doesn’t mean you don’t love them, It means you can’t watch them destroy themselves any longer. It means right now you need a break from watching the destruction. Unconditional love still can set limits. It can still be tough. It can still require respect from the other. It can still want the other person to be the best they can and encourage them to do so. Not demand, not make threats if they do not comply with what you want, but encourage. It is their life and their decision to make what they do with it. If you love this person it is yours to simply love them without strings with whatever decisions they decide to make about their life. These video’s will help you to relax and give away what is getting in the way to loving unconditionally. Link to the video’s. Enjoy!
I became a therapist in an attempt to understand my own childhood and what happened there and how it made me who I am, exhibiting the behaviors that were not always positive, very often self-destructive. I used Art Therapy to help me understand things in my past that were stopping me from making better decisions in my present day. I used Behavioral Science to help me understand underlying causal factors, roots to the present day behaviors that I was seeing in myself. Both help me to change those behaviors/thoughts that were causing me to make self-destructive decisions that were causing pain in life. I have been a therapist since 1985 and have an undergraduate degree Art and behavioral science (double major) from the University of Maine. My graduate work was done at Marywood university and I have a degree in Art Therapy. I have certificates in Forensic Interviewing and Trauma Focused Cognitive Behavior therapy. I have 22 out of 30 credits toward a degree in Trauma Therapy from Drexel University. I started out as a Community Support Worker, Program Manager/Clinical Supervisor, Family therapist and Outpatient therapist. View all posts by dtoomey2015