Being a couple and children

Being a couple is a commitment of two people for and with each other.  It is sharing everything.  It is communicating with each other on every level.  It is making decisions with each other and sticking to them with each other.  It is projecting a united front to the outside world so they know you are a couple.  It is not doing anything, without thinking of the other first.  It is checking in with the other before you do anything that will affect the other.  It is thinking of the other first before anything else.  It is defending, aligning with and following through for and with the other.

If you are raising children as a couple, your children need to see this front.  They will draw security from this front.  They will learn that this front is insurmountable and that they will not be able to get around, through or under it.  They will learn the right things to do and the right way to get their needs met.  They will learn that love is a guiding force in your lives and that you respect each other.  They will learn how to have a healthy relationship with another person from watching you interact.  They will learn to be happy with another and the world around them by watching their parents.   These video’s will help you to relax while you’re doing it.  Link to the video’s    Enjoy!

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dtoomey2015

I became a therapist in an attempt to understand my own childhood and what happened there and how it made me who I am, exhibiting the behaviors that were not always positive, very often self-destructive. I used Art Therapy to help me understand things in my past that were stopping me from making better decisions in my present day. I used Behavioral Science to help me understand underlying causal factors, roots to the present day behaviors that I was seeing in myself. Both help me to change those behaviors/thoughts that were causing me to make self-destructive decisions that were causing pain in life. I have been a therapist since 1985 and have an undergraduate degree Art and behavioral science (double major) from the University of Maine. My graduate work was done at Marywood university and I have a degree in Art Therapy. I have certificates in Forensic Interviewing and Trauma Focused Cognitive Behavior therapy. I have 22 out of 30 credits toward a degree in Trauma Therapy from Drexel University. I started out as a Community Support Worker, Program Manager/Clinical Supervisor, Family therapist and Outpatient therapist.

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