A healthy relationship is a combination of connection to each other, to others and to self. A healthy relationship enables the person time for themselves, time with friends and time with the person with which they are in relationship. It has mutual respect, the ability to allow the other to have an opinion different from yours without it being a point to separate the two of you. It is being able to talk with the other without verbally or physically fighting with each other. Mutual respect. It is sharing everything without restraint knowing that there will be no judgment, negative criticism, no fear of reprisal, no name calling or abuse of any kind. There is only listening, caring and loving from the other person. It is a united front to the outside world that is supportive to each other and whatever children they may have together or have brought into the marriage or relationship. It is the ability to walk away when angry to calm themselves and then talk about why they were angry without fear that they will not be loved afterwards. It is the ability to take responsibility for what they feel and do it without blaming the other or others in general. It is the ability to give and receive unconditional love to the other. These video’s will help you to relax and give away whatever it is that is getting in the way of a healthy relationship. Link to the relaxation and guided imagery video’s Enjoy!
I became a therapist in an attempt to understand my own childhood and what happened there and how it made me who I am, exhibiting the behaviors that were not always positive, very often self-destructive. I used Art Therapy to help me understand things in my past that were stopping me from making better decisions in my present day. I used Behavioral Science to help me understand underlying causal factors, roots to the present day behaviors that I was seeing in myself. Both help me to change those behaviors/thoughts that were causing me to make self-destructive decisions that were causing pain in life. I have been a therapist since 1985 and have an undergraduate degree Art and behavioral science (double major) from the University of Maine. My graduate work was done at Marywood university and I have a degree in Art Therapy. I have certificates in Forensic Interviewing and Trauma Focused Cognitive Behavior therapy. I have 22 out of 30 credits toward a degree in Trauma Therapy from Drexel University. I started out as a Community Support Worker, Program Manager/Clinical Supervisor, Family therapist and Outpatient therapist. View all posts by dtoomey2015