If you are in any kind of relationship with people.  If  you are a caring person.  If you believe that you should do to others what you would want done to yourself.  If you are not self absorbed.  You do not gossip.  Gossip hurts people.  It hurts not only the person being gossiped about but also the person gossiping.  Most of the time the gossip is not true.  So, the person telling it, is a liar.  Lying lessens you, not the other person.  Being know as a liar is a hard thing to overcome.  It can be done. It  not only takes you not lying, but,  it takes other people getting to the point where they feel they can begin to believe you.  You are also know as the person to not tell anything to unless you want it all over town.  You are not trustworthy.  You also hurt the other person, the one you are gossiping about, the one who now is faced with trying to over come the lies that were told about them.  If the gossip is about a child, the child will struggled with this for the rest of their lives.  They will struggle with proving to people that they are not what the gossip says about them.

If you listen to gossip, you are promoting it but listening.  If there is no one listening there will be no gossip.  Gossip only happens when there are people encouraging it to happen.  When people listen to it, whether or not you repeat it, you have given the person gossiping an audience.  It makes them center stage and promotes the need to gossip.  It therefore continues the cycle.  Instead of listening, walk away, when there is no one listening there will be no one talking about anyone else behind their backs.  Give it away and let it go.  You can use the guided imagery below.  Keep smiling



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I became a therapist in an attempt to understand my own childhood and what happened there and how it made me who I am, exhibiting the behaviors that were not always positive, very often self-destructive. I used Art Therapy to help me understand things in my past that were stopping me from making better decisions in my present day. I used Behavioral Science to help me understand underlying causal factors, roots to the present day behaviors that I was seeing in myself. Both help me to change those behaviors/thoughts that were causing me to make self-destructive decisions that were causing pain in life. I have been a therapist since 1985 and have an undergraduate degree Art and behavioral science (double major) from the University of Maine. My graduate work was done at Marywood university and I have a degree in Art Therapy. I have certificates in Forensic Interviewing and Trauma Focused Cognitive Behavior therapy. I have 22 out of 30 credits toward a degree in Trauma Therapy from Drexel University. I started out as a Community Support Worker, Program Manager/Clinical Supervisor, Family therapist and Outpatient therapist.

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