Often times when we are angry we say things that we normally would not say. We say them to people that we love because they have hurt us. Whether it is consciously or unconsciously we are saying things that are now hurting the other person. Speaking in anger only causes more problems between people. So now, instead of just the thing that caused you to be angry, you now have the hurtful thing(s) you just said to them. Speaking in anger is never effective to resolve the situation because of this. It will only bring about more hurt. If you are angry, underneath the anger is usually hurt. Someone hurt you. If you love this person, and you usually do if they got close enough to hurt you, then walk away from the situation until you are calm enough to deal with it. Go for a walk or run. Listen to music, use my videos or whatever else it takes to calm yourself. Then address the situation calmly. If you find yourself getting angry again, walk away again and repeat this process until you have said what needs to be said about the situation, calmly. If the other person becomes angry, walk away until they are calm. Let them know that this is what you will be doing until the situation can be resolved for both of you. Loving someone does not include making the situation worse than it already might be. If the idea is to settle the situation to both your advantages, then you do not want to make it worse. Do not think of this as a win / lose situation. Think of it as win / win situation. Do what you can to make that happen, including controlling your anger, so it is not controlling you and the situation. Here is the relaxation video to help you calm yourself.