Having a feeling of gratitude sets us up for a positive feeling to start the day as well as one to continue with during the day. Being grateful for the things that we have as well as the things that happen to us during the day changes the way we see things. When bad things happen, if we are thanking God for the experience and asking to learn what we need to learn from it, then we will. If we are grumbling and complaining about what just happened then we are learning nothing. The sooner we get to the gratitude the sooner we learn what we need to learn and move on to the next challenge. That doesn’t mean it is easy. We learned somewhere along the line to complain to get what we want. We need to unlearn it and relearn the positive attitude of gratitude. Again it will take 3 weeks of constantly catching yourself complaining, stopping it and replacing it with gratitude to stop the behavior. It will take 3 more weeks to make that behavior a habit. No magic pill. Just hard work. You will need to be able to relax while you’re learning and making mistakes. The more mistakes the long the change will take. Be gentle with yourself. Here is my video to help you give it away and relax.
I became a therapist in an attempt to understand my own childhood and what happened there and how it made me who I am, exhibiting the behaviors that were not always positive, very often self-destructive. I used Art Therapy to help me understand things in my past that were stopping me from making better decisions in my present day. I used Behavioral Science to help me understand underlying causal factors, roots to the present day behaviors that I was seeing in myself. Both help me to change those behaviors/thoughts that were causing me to make self-destructive decisions that were causing pain in life. I have been a therapist since 1985 and have an undergraduate degree Art and behavioral science (double major) from the University of Maine. My graduate work was done at Marywood university and I have a degree in Art Therapy. I have certificates in Forensic Interviewing and Trauma Focused Cognitive Behavior therapy. I have 22 out of 30 credits toward a degree in Trauma Therapy from Drexel University. I started out as a Community Support Worker, Program Manager/Clinical Supervisor, Family therapist and Outpatient therapist. View all posts by dtoomey2015