The lost child is usually the third born n a dysfunctional family. They are called this because they are literally lost in the crowd. The are quiet, don’t make trouble and don’t get their needs met as a result. They are able to fend for themselves but are often alone and sometimes lonely. They are shy and they are the children the parents don’t think they need to worry. They are lost in the shuffle, fade into the woodwork, disappear when trouble starts, hide from life and are often times happy doing so. In other power systems that are dysfunctional the same principles apply. These people are sad and unhappy, often times closet drinkers. They are looking for love and do not find it because no one is paying attention.
Change can also happen for lost children. They will need to begin to get rid of their fear and start to put themselves out there to be seen. Take chances and use the skills that you have learned to use for yourselves. You are brave to go through life by yourself, use that bravery now to put yourself out there. Get involved with and ACOA meeting (Adult Children of Alcoholics) go to therapy as well because you will have PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder) symptoms as well. Using my relaxation video will help you to calm down enough to put yourself out there and to give away what is no longer working for you.