The Mascot

The mascot is the person or child in a dysfunctional system that breaks the tension.  Whenever the stress in the system gets too great it is this persons job to relieve it, to break the tension.  This is done through comic relief or drawing attention away from what the real problem is at the time.  In a public system of authority it may happen when someone makes a mistake and cannot own up to it and blames the scapegoat in that organization.  The scapegoat this time is either not available or just not allowing it to happen and therefore fighting back.  The mascot will do something funny or distracting to take the attention away from the scene and put it on themselves.  This breaks the building tension.  The same thing will happen in a family system.  The sole reason for this person to exist in this unit is to bring comic relief and break the tension.  It is quite a weight to bear and a responsibility to maintain.  This person is usually the last person born to the family system or the last one hired.  Mascots make good comedians and are often times stand up comics. They have the ability to laugh at life which will help them through it.

Change is also available to mascots.  They will have to begin to take themselves seriously and take a look at why they are laughing and at what they are laughing.  Sometimes it is not laughable, it is serous and it is no longer working for you.  Keeping your sense of humor while you’re doing it.  The sense of humor that you have developed is a positive and will help you through this period of change.  Going to ACOA (Adult Children of Alcoholics) meetings and to trauma therapy for Post Traumatic Stress Disorder will also help.  Releeving stress through humor is also a good way to do it, but in case humor is not working for this kind of stress here is my relaxation and guided imagery video.

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxfXvKoRJ53hEQ8p1TTmAaw

 

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dtoomey2015

I became a therapist in an attempt to understand my own childhood and what happened there and how it made me who I am, exhibiting the behaviors that were not always positive, very often self-destructive. I used Art Therapy to help me understand things in my past that were stopping me from making better decisions in my present day. I used Behavioral Science to help me understand underlying causal factors, roots to the present day behaviors that I was seeing in myself. Both help me to change those behaviors/thoughts that were causing me to make self-destructive decisions that were causing pain in life. I have been a therapist since 1985 and have an undergraduate degree Art and behavioral science (double major) from the University of Maine. My graduate work was done at Marywood university and I have a degree in Art Therapy. I have certificates in Forensic Interviewing and Trauma Focused Cognitive Behavior therapy. I have 22 out of 30 credits toward a degree in Trauma Therapy from Drexel University. I started out as a Community Support Worker, Program Manager/Clinical Supervisor, Family therapist and Outpatient therapist.

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