Dysfunction working

If you have identified yourself in more then one of the characters in the dysfunctional unit, you are correct.  Most people are primarily one personality and a little bit of another.  They are interchangeable because if one is not there another person has to play that role.  The healing that has to take place comes from the unit as a whole being able to be individuals instead of working as a unit.  They encourage  the individual to be all of these within themselves.  Function comes when the unit can be all of these things and accepted into the unit no matter what happens.  All of us should be able to make a mistake without having to blame it on someone else or cause the kind of stress and anxiety that happens when dealing with dysfunction. We should not need someone to be the stress reliever and no one should be hiding from the tension.  If you make a mistake you should be able to learn from it with only natural consequences as a result.

Change can happen by allowing each individual to change and then coming together as a unit and create a new dynamic within that unit.  It will not work if even one person does not change because that person will try to make things the way they were and cause problems within that nit until everyone is back to the dysfunction.  Dysfunction is miserable but familiar, comfortable and you know how it works.  Easy to fall back into old patterns.  You will have to be determined in order for this to work on a permanent basis.  Fortify yourself with meetings and therapy.  All dysfunctional have PTSD symptoms and should be in trauma therapy.  Giving away things you have no control over will help.  Here is my guided imagery video to help with that.

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxfXvKoRJ53hEQ8p1TTmAaw

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dtoomey2015

I became a therapist in an attempt to understand my own childhood and what happened there and how it made me who I am, exhibiting the behaviors that were not always positive, very often self-destructive. I used Art Therapy to help me understand things in my past that were stopping me from making better decisions in my present day. I used Behavioral Science to help me understand underlying causal factors, roots to the present day behaviors that I was seeing in myself. Both help me to change those behaviors/thoughts that were causing me to make self-destructive decisions that were causing pain in life. I have been a therapist since 1985 and have an undergraduate degree Art and behavioral science (double major) from the University of Maine. My graduate work was done at Marywood university and I have a degree in Art Therapy. I have certificates in Forensic Interviewing and Trauma Focused Cognitive Behavior therapy. I have 22 out of 30 credits toward a degree in Trauma Therapy from Drexel University. I started out as a Community Support Worker, Program Manager/Clinical Supervisor, Family therapist and Outpatient therapist.

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