Filling the empty space

As a therapist I have heard many people say that something is missing in their lives.  There is a void,an empty space that needs to be filled, that they feel empty.  This ties into yesterday’s blog.  If you are not connecting with yourself daily, then you are not only missing yourself but you are missing a deeper connection.  You can call it many things but it is a higher entity, someone greater then yourself that you are shutting out.  The space that you are trying to fill can only be filled by that presence.  You cannot fill it with anything else and the more you try to fill it with other things, the more miserable you will become.  The more empty you will become.  We are so busy in this culture that we do not consider taking the time to sit with ourselves and meditate important.  The only way you will fill the void you feel is to do just that.  While you are sitting there listen.  The void you feel will be filled with someone greater then yourself.  You will need to relax enough and be still enough to allow this to happen.  If you have kept yourself busy for many years now, this will take time. You can slow down gradually.  The first day sit for 5 minutes and think of nothing.  Quiet your mind.  Set a timer.  The next day sit for 10 minutes and gradually increase the amount of time daily by 5 minutes until you are sitting for longer periods and your mind is not trying to divert to other things that have to be done that day.  Use the guided imagery video to get rid of those thing that have to be done that day while you are meditating and the relaxation video to help yourself do that and get your mind in the right place to concentrate.  You won’t regret it.


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I became a therapist in an attempt to understand my own childhood and what happened there and how it made me who I am, exhibiting the behaviors that were not always positive, very often self-destructive. I used Art Therapy to help me understand things in my past that were stopping me from making better decisions in my present day. I used Behavioral Science to help me understand underlying causal factors, roots to the present day behaviors that I was seeing in myself. Both help me to change those behaviors/thoughts that were causing me to make self-destructive decisions that were causing pain in life. I have been a therapist since 1985 and have an undergraduate degree Art and behavioral science (double major) from the University of Maine. My graduate work was done at Marywood university and I have a degree in Art Therapy. I have certificates in Forensic Interviewing and Trauma Focused Cognitive Behavior therapy. I have 22 out of 30 credits toward a degree in Trauma Therapy from Drexel University. I started out as a Community Support Worker, Program Manager/Clinical Supervisor, Family therapist and Outpatient therapist.

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