As a human being there are many things that we bring with us every day.  We walk around with them and hold on to them.  Some like armor, some like a badge, some like an award that we’ve earned and some like a lessen learned.  During our day many things will happen to us some good and some bad.  How we handle these things is critical to how they turn out and how they effect others.  The most important thing in how we handle these things is our attitude.  It is one of the most important things that we bring with us during our day.  Our attitude not only effects us but others around us that we are with and dealing with during our day.  If we carry with us an attitude of not caring, people will see that and it can break relationship.  If we bring with us an attitude of anxiety people will see that and it may be mis-perceived as their doing.  If we bring with us an attitude of loving positive regard, people will see that and know that you care about the outcome and will do your best.  Most people dismiss people with negative attitudes because they are aware that a good outcome is not possible with someone like that.  They will seek out someone who is genuinely going to try to help them or treat them fairly.  Whatever attitude you bring with you during your day others will see and either run for the hills or want to be with you. Your attitude will determine what kind of person you attract to you and what kind of person you repel.  If you are negative you will attract negative to you.  If you are positive you will attract positive to you.  Everyone knows this, what they don’t always understand is that it starts with the attitude you bring with you during regular interaction with people during your day.  The attitude you wake up with and go to sleep with that will either make or break how your day goes.  What happens during your day is random and will depend entirely upon the person you are dealing with at the time.  Bad things can happen, negative people can happen, unexpected things can happen.  Things will not always turn out the way you have planned.  You cannot control everything that happens to you during your day.  The only thing you can control is the attitude you bring with you to that situation.  An attitude of loving positive regard will bring about a positive outcome whether the situation or the person you are dealing with at the time is negative or not.  You have a choice to either be sucked into the negative attitude of others or to keep that positive attitude you woke up with that morning.  If you choose that negative attitude, things usually go down hill quickly.  If you choose to stick with the positive attitude things will change for the positive.  Your day is yours to do with as you see fit.

Relax and enjoy your day and put the negative in a box with all of the other things you have no control over.  This video can help you do that for yourself.   Link to the video’s   Enjoy!


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I became a therapist in an attempt to understand my own childhood and what happened there and how it made me who I am, exhibiting the behaviors that were not always positive, very often self-destructive. I used Art Therapy to help me understand things in my past that were stopping me from making better decisions in my present day. I used Behavioral Science to help me understand underlying causal factors, roots to the present day behaviors that I was seeing in myself. Both help me to change those behaviors/thoughts that were causing me to make self-destructive decisions that were causing pain in life. I have been a therapist since 1985 and have an undergraduate degree Art and behavioral science (double major) from the University of Maine. My graduate work was done at Marywood university and I have a degree in Art Therapy. I have certificates in Forensic Interviewing and Trauma Focused Cognitive Behavior therapy. I have 22 out of 30 credits toward a degree in Trauma Therapy from Drexel University. I started out as a Community Support Worker, Program Manager/Clinical Supervisor, Family therapist and Outpatient therapist.

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