If there is instantaneous emotion related to an event or situation that has just happened, it has more to do with what just got triggered within you then what just happened. It will be more about what happened in the past that also caused that emotion then what just happened now. That is because that event was unresolved and with that event comes all of the emotions that you were feeling at the time. Resolving that event will be more about recognizing the past event and trying to resolve it within yourself and then possible with the people involved. If for whatever the reason you cannot resolve it with them, then letting it go. Not letting it go will mean that every time a similar event happens it will trigger those same emotions. You will find yourself caught up in feelings that some times have nothing to do with what just happened. You will be asking yourself “what was that about?” because the emotions may not necessarily match the event. Look at the event, let it go and move on . Hanging on to it will only hurt you. Using relaxation exercises and guided imagery will help you to do that. Click here for the video’s. Enjoy!
I became a therapist in an attempt to understand my own childhood and what happened there and how it made me who I am, exhibiting the behaviors that were not always positive, very often self-destructive. I used Art Therapy to help me understand things in my past that were stopping me from making better decisions in my present day. I used Behavioral Science to help me understand underlying causal factors, roots to the present day behaviors that I was seeing in myself. Both help me to change those behaviors/thoughts that were causing me to make self-destructive decisions that were causing pain in life. I have been a therapist since 1985 and have an undergraduate degree Art and behavioral science (double major) from the University of Maine. My graduate work was done at Marywood university and I have a degree in Art Therapy. I have certificates in Forensic Interviewing and Trauma Focused Cognitive Behavior therapy. I have 22 out of 30 credits toward a degree in Trauma Therapy from Drexel University. I started out as a Community Support Worker, Program Manager/Clinical Supervisor, Family therapist and Outpatient therapist. View all posts by dtoomey2015