The emotional brain

The emotional brain is where  we store all of the emotions attached to any experience we have had that is still unresolved.  The brain will continue to bring it up in an attempt to resolve the issue so it can file it away only to be retrieved when we  choose to do so.  If it is unresolved, it will come up unexpectedly when something similar happens in our present day life, that is the emotional brains way of saying, lets file this away, this is our chance.  .  The memory is also attached to the emotions we were feeling at the time of the event.  We will also respond with those emotions until the original event is resolved.  If we were 5 years old at the time of the original event, we will respond with whatever emotions that 5 year old was feeling at the time.  If it was a traumatizing event, then emotionally we will be stuck at 5 years old, emotionally. Even though chronologically we may be 55 years old.  It also usually means that we are using substances to deal with the emotions and pain from that original event, no one has taught us to do anything different.  It also seems easier then dealing with the past that is keeping us stuck.  We are allowing a 5 year old to run our emotional lives, or however old you were at the time of the original event.  The child needs it resolved so it can feel safe, it needs whatever reassurances it did not get when you were 5 years old.    It will leave you alone then to act maturely and not wonder :”where the heck did that come from”.    You can resolve these issues through the drawing or writing exercises.  First your dominant  hand and then your non-dominant hand.  Remember your non-dominant hand is your emotional brain and will respond as the frightened child.  Give them what you did not get, but needed way back then.  Tapping is also a proven way to reprogram your brain and develop new patterns.  Resolving the issues with the people involved with the original event is not the end and often times cannot be done for various reasons.  The person{s} involved may be dead or unwilling to cooperate in resolving your issues with them.  You can resolve it anyway.  You will need to let go of what you cannot resolve and resolve what you can.  Healing the little kid inside, the one holding on to the emotions, can be resolved.  If you will use the writing or drawing exercises and tapping  you can resolve those events that are still causing you pain.  You will need to stop drinking and drugging first, however,  so your brain can actually function as it is suppose to function and remember what you have healed.   This relaxation exercise and guided imagery video will help.   Click here for the link to the videos.    Enjoy!


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I became a therapist in an attempt to understand my own childhood and what happened there and how it made me who I am, exhibiting the behaviors that were not always positive, very often self-destructive. I used Art Therapy to help me understand things in my past that were stopping me from making better decisions in my present day. I used Behavioral Science to help me understand underlying causal factors, roots to the present day behaviors that I was seeing in myself. Both help me to change those behaviors/thoughts that were causing me to make self-destructive decisions that were causing pain in life. I have been a therapist since 1985 and have an undergraduate degree Art and behavioral science (double major) from the University of Maine. My graduate work was done at Marywood university and I have a degree in Art Therapy. I have certificates in Forensic Interviewing and Trauma Focused Cognitive Behavior therapy. I have 22 out of 30 credits toward a degree in Trauma Therapy from Drexel University. I started out as a Community Support Worker, Program Manager/Clinical Supervisor, Family therapist and Outpatient therapist.

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