Releasing anxiety

Releasing anxiety has many steps to it.  It is another one of those things that are not easily done.  You first must identify what provokes the anxiety and this is the most difficult step.  You may superficially identify what causes the anxiety but often times the anxiety is another one one those things that just comes up for no apparent reason.   There is always a reason.  There is always an underlying causal factor that needs to surface and be dealt with before the anxiety and sometimes panic attacks will stop.  This again requires relaxing enough with the therapist to trust them not to hurt you.  If your experience with therapists or people in general is not a good one, again this is not easily done.  The therapist will not be able to rush you into dealing with something this difficult if you do not trust them.  That can be because you have had a bad experience with  a therapist or because you are not ready to deal with whatever is underneath the anxiety and panic attacks.  Chances are it is a little of both.  If you are not ready to deal with the underlying causal factor, it will not work, no matter how good your therapist.  When doing trauma therapy the person must be relaxed enough with the therapist to talk about what is causing the anxiety or panic.  It is usually trauma related and is the most difficult thing this person will ever do.  The first many sessions must be about relaxation and building trust.  It will never be about talking about what happened to them that has caused the anxiety or panic.  A good therapist will work at the persons pace and not rush them into anything they are not ready to have happen.  Doing so is re-traumatizing them.  The second step is to tell your story over and over until it is neutralized and you no longer feel anxiety or panic when you tell it.  There are many ways to tell your story.  Talking about it, writing about it, drawing about it and tapping.  All are very good ways to get it out of your head and heart and somewhere you can see it objectively.  Anything that stays in your head and heart remains subjective and can and does take on a life of its own.  The third step is to do what you can about those things you have control over and let go of those things you do not.  Hanging on to them is only hurting yourself and carrying a burden that is not yours to carry.

Beginning this process is the most difficult step and will take the longest to accomplish.  Be patient with yourself it will be worth it in the long run to be able to be free of anxiety when certain situations crop up in your life.  You can use this video to begin your relaxation and explore the possibility of finding a trauma therapist to help you with this process. The guided imagery will also help you in getting rid of the old and replacing it with the new.   Click here for the videos   Enjoy!


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I became a therapist in an attempt to understand my own childhood and what happened there and how it made me who I am, exhibiting the behaviors that were not always positive, very often self-destructive. I used Art Therapy to help me understand things in my past that were stopping me from making better decisions in my present day. I used Behavioral Science to help me understand underlying causal factors, roots to the present day behaviors that I was seeing in myself. Both help me to change those behaviors/thoughts that were causing me to make self-destructive decisions that were causing pain in life. I have been a therapist since 1985 and have an undergraduate degree Art and behavioral science (double major) from the University of Maine. My graduate work was done at Marywood university and I have a degree in Art Therapy. I have certificates in Forensic Interviewing and Trauma Focused Cognitive Behavior therapy. I have 22 out of 30 credits toward a degree in Trauma Therapy from Drexel University. I started out as a Community Support Worker, Program Manager/Clinical Supervisor, Family therapist and Outpatient therapist.

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