Addictive Personalities

I have spoken about addiction to drugs and alcohol as related to child molestation.  Addiction is hereditary, it is passed on through families.  I believe it is both genetically and behaviorally passed on through families.  It is a coping strategy for some families.  It is also passed on genetically from parents to children. It can skip a generation and it does not happen to all of the children.  Some of the children decide that they will learn a different way to cope with whatever burdens life throws at them. Even though they learned a different way to cope, they will find at least one of their children using drugs and alcohol to cope with their life.  So, there is a genetic as well as a behavioral component to addiction.  There is also, I believe, an underlying driving causal factor.  Something that the addictive person does not feel they can handle any other way.  There is a need to hide or squash the feelings that come with whatever that may be.  As we all know, they come out anyway.  The only difference is that they come out when we least expect it and we have no control over them.  This underlying driving force will feed the addiction until the person feels they can deal with whatever it is in a safe manner.  That, unfortunately, sometimes never happens.  In those cases the person will die of a drug overdose or alcoholism.  If they decide enough is enough, then they will find their way back and usually become the best addiction counselors.

Finding their way back is not easy.  Their families have usually given up on them, they have given up on themselves and God.  Often times blaming God for the situation they find themselves, that is another blog.  When they finally realize it has been them making the decisions, they will find their way back to themselves, their families and God. The original causal factor was probable not theirs, but the decisions after that were, especially in adulthood. Finding their way into AA or NA for the support is a first step.  It will give the person the encouragement they need to continue this journey.  And, the journey can be a very long one.  When the person finds the strength within them to continue the journey into resolving their underlying causal factor they will be finally free to make better choices with the life they have been given.  They will also be able to share their experience with others in an effort to teach a better way.  They make very good addiction counselors.  This video will help you relax through your journey.   Click here for the video  Enjoy!


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I became a therapist in an attempt to understand my own childhood and what happened there and how it made me who I am, exhibiting the behaviors that were not always positive, very often self-destructive. I used Art Therapy to help me understand things in my past that were stopping me from making better decisions in my present day. I used Behavioral Science to help me understand underlying causal factors, roots to the present day behaviors that I was seeing in myself. Both help me to change those behaviors/thoughts that were causing me to make self-destructive decisions that were causing pain in life. I have been a therapist since 1985 and have an undergraduate degree Art and behavioral science (double major) from the University of Maine. My graduate work was done at Marywood university and I have a degree in Art Therapy. I have certificates in Forensic Interviewing and Trauma Focused Cognitive Behavior therapy. I have 22 out of 30 credits toward a degree in Trauma Therapy from Drexel University. I started out as a Community Support Worker, Program Manager/Clinical Supervisor, Family therapist and Outpatient therapist.

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