Looking inside oneself is a brave thing to do. Not all of us possess the desire to do anything remotely like taking a good look at ourselves. We are too afraid that if we do so, we will actually find out that what other people say about us is true. For the most part, it is not true. If we come from dysfunction, what other people say about us, serves them and their purpose. It has little or nothing to do with us. Taking a look inside requires quiet time for yourself, meditation and honesty. We have to be able to do this without interruption. If you have small children, that might be difficult. If you have a partner that cares about you, it will be easier. You can then do it for them. It will require 15 minutes of your day each morning. You will have to be completely quiet and clear your mind. The relaxation video below will help you do that. You will then have to allow yourself to think about those things that have been said you. Things you think might be true about you. Write them down. This gets it out of your head and on to a piece of paper so you can look at it objectively. Anything that stays inside your head, takes on a life of it’s own and is subjective. Then take one thing at a time and think about it, all of the ways you feel you are like this, or not. You can then look at all of those things objectively and decide if this is something you want to keep or change. Changing it takes 3 weeks of constantly stopping yourself from doing the behavior and replacing it with something else. It takes another 3 weeks to make that thing a habit. The second step is important because during times of stress you will fall back on old habits. Guided imagery can help you get rid of unwanted behavior. The video’s below will help you do that. Click on the channel below and follow the link. Enjoy!
I became a therapist in an attempt to understand my own childhood and what happened there and how it made me who I am, exhibiting the behaviors that were not always positive, very often self-destructive. I used Art Therapy to help me understand things in my past that were stopping me from making better decisions in my present day. I used Behavioral Science to help me understand underlying causal factors, roots to the present day behaviors that I was seeing in myself. Both help me to change those behaviors/thoughts that were causing me to make self-destructive decisions that were causing pain in life. I have been a therapist since 1985 and have an undergraduate degree Art and behavioral science (double major) from the University of Maine. My graduate work was done at Marywood university and I have a degree in Art Therapy. I have certificates in Forensic Interviewing and Trauma Focused Cognitive Behavior therapy. I have 22 out of 30 credits toward a degree in Trauma Therapy from Drexel University. I started out as a Community Support Worker, Program Manager/Clinical Supervisor, Family therapist and Outpatient therapist. View all posts by dtoomey2015