Your value in this world

Human value can be seen in many ways.  It can be how you look, what you do for a living, how you present yourself to the world, how other people see you or how you see yourself.  It is also what your purpose in life maybe.  What are you driven to be or do?  What makes you happy when you’re doing it?  If you come from a functional family, you are encouraged to find that purpose and follow it, learn about it, practice it.  If you come from dysfunction you are encouraged to serve the family and ignore what makes you happy, what drives you.  Because of that, finding what drives you or makes you happy may come late in life.  You may have to be free of all of the decisions you made in life that had nothing to do with what you wanted and served other people, before you can venture on the trek to finding that purpose. Looking inside oneself will help you find that purpose.  Meditation will help you find that purpose.  Prayng will help you find that purpose. Letting go of what other people want you to do for them and finding out what you need to do for yourself, is not easy.  Like everything else in this life, it is about letting go of what is no longer working for you and replacing it with those things that will.  Sometimes that means setting limits with the people you work with or love.  Saying no to them when you usually said okay, and then stressed about getting everything done.  Saying no to someone who is used to you saying yes is also stressful, but will benefit you in the end.  Being in a constant state of stress is not good for anyone.(another blog)  Letting go of old habits is not easy, sometimes they’re safe even though they’re no longer working for you.  You are unhappy with them or the result they bring.  They are still comfortable and you know them, you know the results.  Letting go of them is un-chartered territory.  It is the unknown.  Getting past that fear, not allowing it to stop us is one of the more difficult things we dysfunctional people do.  It is beneficial though.  It will bring us happiness.  If you are doing your purpose, it will make you smile.  It will not feel like work, even though it may be.  It will always be something that you can’t wait to do.  It will be a valuable contribution to this world.  You will find value in it.  Others will find value in it.  You will find peace when you’re doing it.  It will never be an effort to do it.

Spending time with yourself to find your purpose means you will have to relax and get rid of old habits and maybe old friends.  The video below will help you do both of those thing.  Enjoy!


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I became a therapist in an attempt to understand my own childhood and what happened there and how it made me who I am, exhibiting the behaviors that were not always positive, very often self-destructive. I used Art Therapy to help me understand things in my past that were stopping me from making better decisions in my present day. I used Behavioral Science to help me understand underlying causal factors, roots to the present day behaviors that I was seeing in myself. Both help me to change those behaviors/thoughts that were causing me to make self-destructive decisions that were causing pain in life. I have been a therapist since 1985 and have an undergraduate degree Art and behavioral science (double major) from the University of Maine. My graduate work was done at Marywood university and I have a degree in Art Therapy. I have certificates in Forensic Interviewing and Trauma Focused Cognitive Behavior therapy. I have 22 out of 30 credits toward a degree in Trauma Therapy from Drexel University. I started out as a Community Support Worker, Program Manager/Clinical Supervisor, Family therapist and Outpatient therapist.

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