Political correctness

Political correctness is trying to make a label that is given to someone sound less insulting.  It is something that has been relabeled because the last label, has become an insult.  Labels are identifiers, adjectives, they are part of our language used in an attempt to help us understand each other better.  They were never meant to insult anyone.  The new label can also become politically incorrect because we are now using that word as an insult.  We can change the word as often as we want and it will not matter.  It is not the word itself, it is us who make it an insult.  It is not what we are saying, but how we are saying it, the tone and cadence of our voice, our facial expressions and body language.  It is what we are teaching our children at home and on the school playgrounds and buses that make it an insult.  Changing the word is not going to change that.  If you come from dysfunction, name calling may have been an everyday occurrence. You may not have even realized that there was anything wrong with what you were doing or saying.  You still may not.  You may be one of those people teaching you children to name call. You may be doing it yourself. Name calling has nothing to do with the person you are calling the name.  It has everything to do with how little you think of yourself.  Functional people do not need to name call.  They are okay with who and what they are, do not need to call anyone a name in an attempt to make themselves feel better, make a point or impress someone.  They are content with who and what they are and what others are.  They are accepting of the other people in their lives as equal, not greater or lesser.  They do not see differences in people as right or wrong, but just different.  Different is okay.  Different should not be feared.  Different should be embraced as something to learn from and enjoy.

Changing the word one more time is not going to change the attitude of the people using the word as an insult.  Changing people’s attitude about how they feel about themselves will change how they use the word.  Teaching people to accept differences as something to cherish and explore instead of fear and loath, will help change the attitude toward our differences.  Changing anything takes 3 weeks of constantly not doing what you used to do and replacing it with a new behavior.  It then takes another 3 weeks of practicing that new behavior to make it a habit.  The video’s below will help you relax  and get rid of the old behaviors while you are making the changes in your attitude.  Enjoy!

Click here for the relaxation and guided imagery video’s


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I became a therapist in an attempt to understand my own childhood and what happened there and how it made me who I am, exhibiting the behaviors that were not always positive, very often self-destructive. I used Art Therapy to help me understand things in my past that were stopping me from making better decisions in my present day. I used Behavioral Science to help me understand underlying causal factors, roots to the present day behaviors that I was seeing in myself. Both help me to change those behaviors/thoughts that were causing me to make self-destructive decisions that were causing pain in life. I have been a therapist since 1985 and have an undergraduate degree Art and behavioral science (double major) from the University of Maine. My graduate work was done at Marywood university and I have a degree in Art Therapy. I have certificates in Forensic Interviewing and Trauma Focused Cognitive Behavior therapy. I have 22 out of 30 credits toward a degree in Trauma Therapy from Drexel University. I started out as a Community Support Worker, Program Manager/Clinical Supervisor, Family therapist and Outpatient therapist.

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