Finding gratitude for anything when you have come from dysfunction is difficult. In the beginning of treatment I ask people what is going good for them. They cannot tell me, they struggle with finding anything positive about themselves or their world. Even if I suggest something that I have observed, they will qualify it with, what I call a “yeah buts”. “Yeah buts” are excuses for why something is not what it is. An example would be if I said “You have nice hair” as an offering for something positive. The yeah but would be “Yeah but it always takes me a long time to do because it is too curly.” Having nice curly hair is something a lot of people pay a lot of money for, it is something for which to be grateful. When you are in the middle of the pain from dysfunction, you cannot always see the positive in your life. You need someone to help you find it. That is an arduous task at times. Getting rid of the things that are standing in the way, seeing all of the things that we have that are positive, only comes when more of the negative is removed. Talking about the negative, writing about the negative, drawing about the negative will get it out of your head and to a place where you can see it objectively. It will take the power out of it and put you in control. Anything that stays in our head will take on a life of its own and gain momentum and become larger than life. Being able to see it objectively will put you in a place of deciding what you will do about it. It will also put you in place of finding the positive in your life. Being grateful for what you do have, instead of what you don’t. Finding those positive things in life becomes easy. It can be done daily and often. Negative things will always happen to us, but, they will never again be the only thing in our lives. We will even be able to see the positive in the negative. And laugh!
The video below will help you relax and get rid of the negative, so you can begin to see the positive that is already there in you life.