Closed mindedness

Close mindedness happens when you have to be in control and no one else can have an opinion other than yours.  You will not accept anyone else’s opinion because it differs from yours and you cannot be wrong.  You will close people out and anything that does not support your already existing claim or opinion.  Fear is at the core of this issue.  Fear will stop you from opening your mind to anything or anyone that is different from you and your opinion.  Fear happens when we do not understand or even want to understand anything other than what we already know.  It is safe, what we already know.  There is no pressure to understand or accept anything else.

Changing any behavior is not easy.  Changing, for a person like this has to come from them totally because they will not be open to suggestions.  If you are living with this person or love this person, you will have to accept them for who and what they are without thinking that they will ever change.  Or you will have to ask yourself “Can I live with this for the rest of my life?”  If you can’t then you will need to make the decision to stay or leave.  If by some chance they are willing to change.  The change would happen the way any change happens.  Constantly working to change the habit you want to change until the replacement behavior becomes the habit.  The total process take 3 week as I explained in an earlier blog.  It will work but it takes time and a lot of effort on the part of the person who wants to change.   These video’s will help you to relax and get rid of those things you have no control over through this change.   Link to the video’s ,   Enjoy!

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dtoomey2015

I became a therapist in an attempt to understand my own childhood and what happened there and how it made me who I am, exhibiting the behaviors that were not always positive, very often self-destructive. I used Art Therapy to help me understand things in my past that were stopping me from making better decisions in my present day. I used Behavioral Science to help me understand underlying causal factors, roots to the present day behaviors that I was seeing in myself. Both help me to change those behaviors/thoughts that were causing me to make self-destructive decisions that were causing pain in life. I have been a therapist since 1985 and have an undergraduate degree Art and behavioral science (double major) from the University of Maine. My graduate work was done at Marywood university and I have a degree in Art Therapy. I have certificates in Forensic Interviewing and Trauma Focused Cognitive Behavior therapy. I have 22 out of 30 credits toward a degree in Trauma Therapy from Drexel University. I started out as a Community Support Worker, Program Manager/Clinical Supervisor, Family therapist and Outpatient therapist.

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