Catfishing is a realitively new term.  It is used to define people who pretend to be someone else.  They take on this persons identity, pictures, experience and sometimes family.  They are usually on dating sites but will never want to meet you and sometimes not want to talk to you on the phone.  They will often only want to communicate by email or text message.  If you have Hulu, there is a television show about this on there.  People who need to do this sometimes will ask you for money or phone or cyber sex.  This is usually their only form of communicating with anyone on a deeper level.  They do not seem to be  able to explain why they need to do this to people who they seem to want to get close to, but never do.  They may not want to give you their last name.  They will often times be very quick to tell you they love you and want to be with you, even though they will make up resons why they can never actually meet you.

If you are on a dating site and begin to talk with someone who is resistent to meeting you, connect with you on a real level, you might want to google them and see if what they are telling you matches what is being said about this actual person.  If you can’t find them and your gut is telling you something is wrong, it probable is and you should cut it off.  These relationships never go anywhere and if you are truly looking for someone to spend quality time with, this person is not it.  If you were counting on this person to make your dreams come true, you will have to give away the hurt that this person has caused.  Do not give away your heart before you have at least met the person to which you’re giving it.  The following link will help you to do just that.

Here is the link. Enjoy!


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I became a therapist in an attempt to understand my own childhood and what happened there and how it made me who I am, exhibiting the behaviors that were not always positive, very often self-destructive. I used Art Therapy to help me understand things in my past that were stopping me from making better decisions in my present day. I used Behavioral Science to help me understand underlying causal factors, roots to the present day behaviors that I was seeing in myself. Both help me to change those behaviors/thoughts that were causing me to make self-destructive decisions that were causing pain in life. I have been a therapist since 1985 and have an undergraduate degree Art and behavioral science (double major) from the University of Maine. My graduate work was done at Marywood university and I have a degree in Art Therapy. I have certificates in Forensic Interviewing and Trauma Focused Cognitive Behavior therapy. I have 22 out of 30 credits toward a degree in Trauma Therapy from Drexel University. I started out as a Community Support Worker, Program Manager/Clinical Supervisor, Family therapist and Outpatient therapist.

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