Is nodding always agreeing?

I have done a lot of nodding in my life, both in and out of therapy sessions.  My nod is often times not in agreement with what is being said, however.  The person that I am talking with will later tell me that I agreed with them and does not now understand why I have changed my mind.  When I explain to them that I was nodding in understanding, not agreement they tell me that I should stop doing that because it is confusing.  I tell them that if they are confused, they should ask questions and the confusion will be cleared up for them.  We all nod during conversations and it is not always in agreement with what is being said.  Depending upon the person, will depend upon how they interpret the nod.  Most people will ask questions if they are confused about the nod or even other body language that they are picking up on.  Some will not think that it is that important that others are agreeing with them, they feel confident in their opinion and do not need others agreeing with them in order to express it.  For those that do need others to agree with them, you will need to let that need go.  Your opinions are just as important as anyone else and you do not need anyone else to agree with you in order to express the opinions that you hold.  That feeling comes from a lack of  self-worth and confidence in the differing opinions that you hold.  You can hold them even if no one else agrees with you.  If someone does express a differing opinion listen to it and decide whether you agree or not and then either incorporate it into your life or forget about it, let it go.  It’s okay that others have a differing opinion then yours, it does not diminish you in any way.  Give it away, let it go.  The following link will help you to do just that.

Here is the link. Enjoy!

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dtoomey2015

I became a therapist in an attempt to understand my own childhood and what happened there and how it made me who I am, exhibiting the behaviors that were not always positive, very often self-destructive. I used Art Therapy to help me understand things in my past that were stopping me from making better decisions in my present day. I used Behavioral Science to help me understand underlying causal factors, roots to the present day behaviors that I was seeing in myself. Both help me to change those behaviors/thoughts that were causing me to make self-destructive decisions that were causing pain in life. I have been a therapist since 1985 and have an undergraduate degree Art and behavioral science (double major) from the University of Maine. My graduate work was done at Marywood university and I have a degree in Art Therapy. I have certificates in Forensic Interviewing and Trauma Focused Cognitive Behavior therapy. I have 22 out of 30 credits toward a degree in Trauma Therapy from Drexel University. I started out as a Community Support Worker, Program Manager/Clinical Supervisor, Family therapist and Outpatient therapist.

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