Whenever we experience trauma or things in our life that create bad memories we tend to remember the negative things about that memory. There may have been a lot of positive things to remember too, but we only remember the bad or negative things. Hanging on to the negative memories only stops us from moving on with our lives and will eventually make us stuck in the past with the negative memories. It will begin to influence our behavior and we will become the negative things that we remember. We will eventually become the negative person our negative thoughts and memories make us. Negative and positive cannot exist in the same space. They repel each other. If you only remember the negative, the positive cannot exist for you. You will eventually become angry, bitter and hateful. Not unlike your thoughts. Getting rid of the negative will allow for the positive to exist within you. The negative will become something that happened to you and not your entire life. You be able to allow the energy in your life to be happy and joyful even during times of trouble. We all have problems, troubles. It is how we handle them that is important and will keep us positive. Being honest with ourselves and others will also keep us stay positive. Accepting our mistakes as being human also helps. The following link will help you to give away what no longer serves you and replace it with things that are enjoyable.
I became a therapist in an attempt to understand my own childhood and what happened there and how it made me who I am, exhibiting the behaviors that were not always positive, very often self-destructive. I used Art Therapy to help me understand things in my past that were stopping me from making better decisions in my present day. I used Behavioral Science to help me understand underlying causal factors, roots to the present day behaviors that I was seeing in myself. Both help me to change those behaviors/thoughts that were causing me to make self-destructive decisions that were causing pain in life. I have been a therapist since 1985 and have an undergraduate degree Art and behavioral science (double major) from the University of Maine. My graduate work was done at Marywood university and I have a degree in Art Therapy. I have certificates in Forensic Interviewing and Trauma Focused Cognitive Behavior therapy. I have 22 out of 30 credits toward a degree in Trauma Therapy from Drexel University. I started out as a Community Support Worker, Program Manager/Clinical Supervisor, Family therapist and Outpatient therapist. View all posts by dtoomey2015