I have recently had a discussion about age, knowledge and wisdom. It was agreed upon that with age usually comes knowledge, but not always wisdom. As we age we gain information that most of us incorporate into our lives in some fashion or reject it as unimportant or false. Most of us also believe that the more we know the more we realize we don’t know. The more we realize that we don’t have all of the answers because if we did the world would not be in the state that it is in. For those who lack wisdom, this concept is foreign to them. They think that they do have solutions that should be good for us all. Instead of working with everyone to come up with solutions, they force theirs on all of us creating unwanted and unnecessary chaos. They lack wisdom. Wisdom allows us to realize that we do not have all of the answers and that if we work together with others we may collectively actually find solutions that work for everyone. A lack of wisdom also indicates that we lack the capacity for being humble enough to know that we don’t have all of the answers, that maybe we need to own that fact and allow others to express their ideas and concerns as well. That maybe we need to listen and not speak. That being the center of attention is not always the best position for changing what is wrong, even if we do have more knowledge. Wisdom is respecting others and their opinions as well as expressing the knowledge that you have accumulated over a lifetime. Changing attitudes so that you can become respectful of others is not difficult. It is a matter of practicing humility and respect for others. Changing any attitude or behavior takes 3 weeks of constantly not doing what you want to change and doing the new behavior. It then takes another 3 weeks of practicing that new behavior to make it a habit. It will also mean giving away old behaviors and attitudes to replace them with the new ones. The following link will help you do that.
I became a therapist in an attempt to understand my own childhood and what happened there and how it made me who I am, exhibiting the behaviors that were not always positive, very often self-destructive. I used Art Therapy to help me understand things in my past that were stopping me from making better decisions in my present day. I used Behavioral Science to help me understand underlying causal factors, roots to the present day behaviors that I was seeing in myself. Both help me to change those behaviors/thoughts that were causing me to make self-destructive decisions that were causing pain in life. I have been a therapist since 1985 and have an undergraduate degree Art and behavioral science (double major) from the University of Maine. My graduate work was done at Marywood university and I have a degree in Art Therapy. I have certificates in Forensic Interviewing and Trauma Focused Cognitive Behavior therapy. I have 22 out of 30 credits toward a degree in Trauma Therapy from Drexel University. I started out as a Community Support Worker, Program Manager/Clinical Supervisor, Family therapist and Outpatient therapist. View all posts by dtoomey2015