It is difficult to find middle ground when the ends are so far apart. We see it in our government, we see it in families and we see it all around us. People seem to want to be right and not find the middle ground. Meanwhile the people in the middle suffer the consequences of the far left and far right. Middle ground should not be that difficult to find if we’re looking for it. If we truly want to work with each other to find common ground. We don’t seem to want that though. We seem to want to be right, to win. I don’t remember ever voting for someone because they were right all of the time. I don’t ever remember always wanting to win an argument. I do remember wanting to reach an agreement that we all can live with and get to sleep at night without nightmares. We seem to have thrown away common sense and compromise. We seem to need to be right all of the time. Why? Having to have all fo the answers all of the time tells me there is a lack of confidence within the person needing to be right. Together we have all of the answers, alone we have some of them. Admitting that we don’t have the answer only says that we are human and will try hard to find the answer, to learn. That usually comes from someone else because we have owned the fact that we need help and have asked for it. It doesn’t make us less, it makes us better. Finding our answers from someone else makes us curious about the world around us and the people in it. Letting go of the ego that needs to be right all of the time will allow us to find the answers that we all need to find. It will make us a part of the human race. Being right all of the time has nothing to do with that. Letting go and changing negative behavior is never easy. It will take 3 weeks to change behavior and 3 more weeks to make that behavior a habit. You will also have to let go of what is not working any longer. The following link will help you to do that.
I became a therapist in an attempt to understand my own childhood and what happened there and how it made me who I am, exhibiting the behaviors that were not always positive, very often self-destructive. I used Art Therapy to help me understand things in my past that were stopping me from making better decisions in my present day. I used Behavioral Science to help me understand underlying causal factors, roots to the present day behaviors that I was seeing in myself. Both help me to change those behaviors/thoughts that were causing me to make self-destructive decisions that were causing pain in life. I have been a therapist since 1985 and have an undergraduate degree Art and behavioral science (double major) from the University of Maine. My graduate work was done at Marywood university and I have a degree in Art Therapy. I have certificates in Forensic Interviewing and Trauma Focused Cognitive Behavior therapy. I have 22 out of 30 credits toward a degree in Trauma Therapy from Drexel University. I started out as a Community Support Worker, Program Manager/Clinical Supervisor, Family therapist and Outpatient therapist. View all posts by dtoomey2015