I have always thought that I was able to say what I needed to say to the people who needed to hear it. That fact has made me a good clinician. I have never been a person who has talked a lot, my family used to think I had something mentally wrong with me because I didn’t talk much. I have always talked when I thought I need to do so. I am not much with small talk and most of the time find it a waste of time. I can listen to someone else’s opinion and not feel a need to say anything even though I don’t agree with them. Some people though out my life have said things about me that weren’t true and I have not correct the lie because I thought that I would be putting the person repeating this to me in the middle. I didn’t want this person to change their feelings about the person who told them the lie because of me. I would work thing out with the person who told them the lie, not with them. A very wise friend recently told me that I was not putting this person in the middle. The person who told them the lie was. That what I was doing, however was allowing the lie to continue and now this person is thinking that it is true because I didn’t say anything. I have recently changed my thinking about this topic and have begun to speak my truth as necessary. It is a freeing experience to be able to correct the lie immediately and not hold back until an opportunity presents itself. Following my own advise and letting go of old behavior and beliefs was not that difficult. Putting old behavior in my box and letting go of it is a freeing experience. The following link will help you do the same thing.
I became a therapist in an attempt to understand my own childhood and what happened there and how it made me who I am, exhibiting the behaviors that were not always positive, very often self-destructive. I used Art Therapy to help me understand things in my past that were stopping me from making better decisions in my present day. I used Behavioral Science to help me understand underlying causal factors, roots to the present day behaviors that I was seeing in myself. Both help me to change those behaviors/thoughts that were causing me to make self-destructive decisions that were causing pain in life. I have been a therapist since 1985 and have an undergraduate degree Art and behavioral science (double major) from the University of Maine. My graduate work was done at Marywood university and I have a degree in Art Therapy. I have certificates in Forensic Interviewing and Trauma Focused Cognitive Behavior therapy. I have 22 out of 30 credits toward a degree in Trauma Therapy from Drexel University. I started out as a Community Support Worker, Program Manager/Clinical Supervisor, Family therapist and Outpatient therapist. View all posts by dtoomey2015