When you can’t let go of something in your past and you continue to think about it, dwell on the pain and hurt that it caused, you are stuck. You are stuck in the past and cannot move forward until you resolve the reason why you’re stuck in this experience. You have to figure out why this experience has caused you such pain. You have to figure out why you allowed this experience to keep you stuck there. You have to figure out why you can’t let go of it. Why you want to stay in the pain that it is causing you. Sometimes it is because of fear. Sometimes it is because of the need for revenge, making that person pay for what they’ve done to you. Sometimes it is because we think someone should apologize for what they’ve done to us. Whatever the reason we have chosen to stay stuck in the past, it is only hurting us. It is only hurting you because everyone else has moved on in their life, while you are still hurting over this experience from the past. Letting go is never easy, if it were we all would be able to do it without a thought about it. Letting go of something in our past that has served some function in our lives is difficult, but worth it. Anything worth while is always difficult, but, always worth the effort that it takes to do it. The following link will help you to let go of what is no longer functioning for you in your life.
I became a therapist in an attempt to understand my own childhood and what happened there and how it made me who I am, exhibiting the behaviors that were not always positive, very often self-destructive. I used Art Therapy to help me understand things in my past that were stopping me from making better decisions in my present day. I used Behavioral Science to help me understand underlying causal factors, roots to the present day behaviors that I was seeing in myself. Both help me to change those behaviors/thoughts that were causing me to make self-destructive decisions that were causing pain in life. I have been a therapist since 1985 and have an undergraduate degree Art and behavioral science (double major) from the University of Maine. My graduate work was done at Marywood university and I have a degree in Art Therapy. I have certificates in Forensic Interviewing and Trauma Focused Cognitive Behavior therapy. I have 22 out of 30 credits toward a degree in Trauma Therapy from Drexel University. I started out as a Community Support Worker, Program Manager/Clinical Supervisor, Family therapist and Outpatient therapist. View all posts by dtoomey2015